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Met with a couple the other day who are really nice people - - just not to each other. The wife wants the husband to do things and see things the way she does. Problem is, he wants her to do things and see things the way he does. Obviously, this isn’t going to work well.


When we marry, I don’t think we say, “I really want to be with this person because they do and think the wrong way.” Most of the time we marry because we like things about the other person. 
So my question is, why do we spend so much time focused on what we don’t like about our partner. Let’s spend all our time focused on what we do like, encourage these positive aspects, and enjoy the person we married.
If all we focus on is how terrible our partner is, seems like our partner will think we are also terrible. My wife and I spend a lot of time being positive toward each other and we really like being married. Don’t think we’re lucky, I think we’re just happy. Beats being unhappy. Just Say'n